It’s critical to have a strong mindful support system in our lives when we find ourselves facing challenges and feeling alone. We feel as if there is no one around who can relate or understand us. It is as if we are stuck on an island, all alone. If only we could have someone in our corner. Someone to have our backs. Someone to lend us their strength, support, respect, care. Someone to guide us, challenge us, mentor us. Someone who could let us be just us. No judgment. No fear. No expectations.
We all have our person or persons that we always count on.
Our family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and even acquaintances, sometimes, play a role in our self-care by just being there for us when we need them.
From your home to your place of work, the community around you, your place of worship, the gym, your local grocery shop, you are surrounded by people that can add to your self-care and to your needs.
But are they the right people to have around you when you need objective support? Not really.
Take your family and friends, for example. They are related to you, but sometimes you feel like they can’t really relate. They love you. They have known you for a long time. They see you through a boxed lens. And that lens, sometimes, hinders their perspective, which means, they will limit you more than allow you to expand. They won’t be able to just disconnect from the “you” they perceive to give you objective advice. They will want to soothe you, to reassure you, while sometimes enabling you to continue the behavior that has put you where you are in the first place.
A real support system is a network of people you surround yourself with in order to better achieve your goals without losing track of who you are. They won’t let you stray from the path you have to follow to get to where you want to be. Guiding you. Challenging you. Mentoring you.
A real support system has one very important requisite: Objectivity.
And for that, you need to step outside your circle of people and reach out. You have to focus on your needs and look for the best and most suitable person or people for you at that time.
Whether your problem is related to business, money, health, or whatever area of your life that you find to be hurting, there are people out there who can help you. You are not alone!
Your chosen Mindful Support System are people that are in your corner Build a Strong and Mindful Support System. They do not judge you or ridicule you. They provide feedback that is objective, genuine, and in your best interest. They are not helping you out of a misguided sense of duty or simply trying to shield you or cuddle you because they don’t ever want you to feel bad. They don’t have an agenda. They have your best interests at heart. If you do need a cuddle, a good cry, a healing laugh, they can be there for you. However, if what you need is a wake up call, a kick in the butt, or even a slap in the face, they will as easily give it to you, because that is what you need to heal, to grow. They will have a positive impact on your goals. You may call them therapists, healers, teachers, coaches… You may talk to them frequently or just occasionally.
These chosen people will play a specific role in your life. As you might know, people come into our lives for a reason, for a season, or for life. It is okay for someone to come to you, support you through something you need, and just move on. Or you move on from them. That was their reason or season to be with you. They don’t have to become your close friends, part of your inner circle. However, most of them likely will. That is the point. They should be aligned to you. They have to be able to see you. Your soul.
These practitioners will be there to help guide you, counsel you, mentor you, even challenge you to reach your goals. They will help you be accountable, but honesty is the key. You have to be able to be brutally honest with yourself so that you can enable them to help you. As soon as you are, you leave the state of denial you have allowed yourself to be in and finally move towards healing. Mindful Support System
This new Mindful Support System will help you reach your goal by giving you objective advice, not by giving you a pat in the back and saying “all will be fine.” These people will tell it to you straight. They will let you talk and they will listen from an objective, safe, judgment-free place. They will not try to soften the blow, or make you feel like your feelings are wrong, or make things worse by reinforcing the mindset that led you to where you are and enabling the denial to continue.
Furthermore, your Mindful Support System should be just that, supportive. They should help you in a way that makes you feel lighter. Better. More hopeful. Certain that a better tomorrow is within your reach. However, sometimes, you will find that certain people are not as suited to help you as you first thought. They may take more than they give. They might let you feeling drained, sad, or even worthless after each interaction. This isn’t right. Because if the support isn’t balanced, it won’t be healthy, and therefore, you won’t heal.
Sometimes, the person, or people, you chose, or thought about choosing, hasn’t been able to solve their own issues. Maybe they can’t face them. Maybe they are even running from themselves. Whichever the case, they are not yet in a place of healing for themselves. And if that is the case, they won’t be able to help you, even if they claim they can. For them, it is easier to try to help someone else than face their inner selves.
Your Mindful Support System should consist of people you trust implicitly. There needs to be mutual respect. They need to be able to look at the real you and really see you. See through you. The best people to surround yourself with are those who have had similar experiences to yours and have been able to overcome them. They have walked the path you are walking on, so they know the way. (see how to find a healer here)
Our healers, coaches, therapists, and other practitioners are a community of experienced professionals willing and ready to be your Support System. They will guide you through the setbacks and challenges you have faced or are currently facing so that you may overcome them. To become the best version of yourself.
Reach out to us and surround yourself with the best of the best.
